There are times in chatting with a friend that the phrase “between you & me” pops up. I know I am about to be sworn to secrecy or be told something I have no business knowing.
A wise pastor I know often admonished us in his message, “If you are not part of the problem, or part of the solution, you do not need to be imparted the information.”
This is pretty good advice! I am at a point in my memory banks where I canNOT remember if what I’m told is to be kept ‘secret’ or not, so honestly I’d really rather NOT be in the know.
Being privy to derogatory information about others taints the mind. When I see the person who has been placed in a bad light, I tend to remember the bad report shared about them.
I am finding that when I or others feel the need to blow off steam when someone irritates, that someone else gets burned.
Let’s call it what it is. Gossip is idle personal talk. Slander is to attack someone’s good name.
The bible encourages us to be busy about the work we have to do, so there will not be time for idle tale-bearing. I need to react this kind of sharing by asking my cohorts NOT to spill the beans if the phrase “between you & me” comes up. If I am privy to gossip, I need to keep my own counsel & ask the Lord to give me wisdom & discernment in the future.
Proverbs 21:23 Those who guard their tongues keep themselves from calamity.
So just ‘between you & me’, let’s derail the gossip train the next opportunity we get…and If you feel the need to spill some beans, then make my recipe for Barbeque Baked Beans.
It’s a great way to guard your tongue because it’s not polite to talk with your mouth full. :-)
2 (16-oz.) cans pork and beans, undrained
1 tsp. prepared mustard
1 c. hamburger, cooked and crumbled
1/4th onion, finely chopped
3 T. ketchup
3 T. brown sugar
4 slices bacon
Brown the hamburger and drain. Add the ketchup, brown sugar, mustard and onion. Place into a 1 qt casserole dish sprayed with non-stick cooking spray. Top with bacon and bake
uncovered at 350° for 45-60 minutes. Yield: six 3/4 cup servings
Note: For a group of 16 or more, I triple this recipe and place in a 9 x 13 casserole
dish. 1 lb. cooked ground beef=3 measured cups